What are you stirring in your conversations?

Sunday, 15 August 2010.

Have you ever been in a situation where there is tension in the air? I sure have. This week I was on the brink of a couple of conversations that could have easily erupted into unnecessary arguments. You know the kind, silly little things that in the grand scheme of life it’s no big deal. For example, she likes to dry her hair this way, but she thinks it’s better to do it that way.

Now I’m going to put a clause here because sometimes conversations that are heading towards an argument are not over trivial things. However, even if you’re feeling angry, Proverbs encourages us to think about how to respond.

With this in mind, today’s thoughts come from Proverbs 15:1 (NLT)– A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare. The NIV says it like this– A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Often when you respond in anger, the ripple effect is that the other person then also responds in anger. It creates a cycle and sets the stage for a heated argument. On the flipside, speaking gently can diffuse such conversations.

So what are you “stirring” in your conversations? When it gets to that split-second of a moment where you know you can either make it better or make it worse by what you say, what do you do?

A Girl of Wisdom uses discernment in her conversations. She understands that sometimes there are other factors going on behind the scenes. Perhaps there’s a reason the other person is on edge today. Whatever the cause of such a conversation, a Girl of Wisdom knows that her words can either be a weapon of anger or an instrument of peace.

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