The Drip Effect… Three Tips on How to Avoid Nagging.

Thursday 28 October, 2010.

Drip… drip…drip… ever had a night where you couldn’t sleep because in the background you could hear a dripping tap? A drip is such a small thing- a tiny drop of water coming out of a tap and hitting the bottom of a sink- yet it can cause such irritation!

Proverbs 27:15-16 (MSG) says, “A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky tap; You can’t turn it off, and you can’t get away from it.”

The dictionary defines nagging as “continually finding fault or complaining in an irritating, wearisome, or relentless manner.” Unfortunately, this trait is often associated with women!!

There are many reasons why women nag- from tiredness to frustration to the need to control, to name a few. In general, nagging doesn’t work; it only creates more irritation within a situation. So…if you find yourself in this situation, stop and ask yourself, “Why am I nagging?”

Most importantly, commit to being a non-nagging-kind-of-girl! Here are a few tips on how to avoid nagging:

1. Think before you speak. Do you really need to ask the same request again? Instead, is there something encouraging you can say to the person instead of pointing out what they haven’t said or done (again!)? Think about how you can praise them for the things that they are doing.

2. Go with the flow. As women, we often have set deadlines and a way in which we like things done. This can be very useful, however, when it comes to repeatedly nagging, it’s good to let these preconceived timelines go. There is always tomorrow to fix the sink, mow the lawns, do the dishes or whatever may be a source of nagging in your home.

3. Give them a break. Whoever it is that you feel like nagging, stop and take a moment to think about what else may be going on in their world. Perhaps it’s a busy month at school or work or something is happening behind the scenes that you aren’t aware of. Give them some breathing space and see what unfolds.

A Girl of Wisdom chooses to use her words in a positive manner. She is aware that it’s not just what you say, but how you say it and that timing is a critical factor. If you catch yourself nagging this week, I encourage you to pause, take a deep breath and turn your words into praise.

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