How to have a positive perspective! A Pearls of Wisdom Feature…

Tuesday 2nd November 2010

Having a positive perspective can be hard work! Especially in a world where people are not perfect and bad things can happen to good people. We may easily see the negative first and struggle to be optimistic in the midst of injustice and pain.

Having a positive perspective doesn’t mean denying your problems or stopping yourself from feeling emotions like hurt, anger, grief or regret. Having a positive perspective involves you acknowledging your problems and feeling these emotions, but with an attitude of wanting to deal with your challenges and to move forward in a healthy and Godly way so that you do not become bitter and mean-spirited.

The bible contains so many wonderful pearls of wisdom on how to overcome negativity and have a positive perspective. One such message is from Philippians 4:8 (NLT)-

“Fix your thoughts on what is true and honourable and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”

The author of these powerful words wrote them straight after telling a group of people to stop worrying. How interesting!  Worry robs people of their joy and peace…and ultimately, a positive perspective. This verse mentions “thoughts” and “think” several times, revealing that having a positive perspective starts in our mind.

This week…

1. Pay attention to your thoughts and how they make you feel- a Girl of Wisdom is aware of and takes control of her thought patterns.

2. Don’t allow yourself to overanalyse situations and people’s words– a Girl of Wisdom chooses to take things in the best way possible unless she is clearly told otherwise!

3. Think thoughts of gratitude- a Girl of Wisdom counts her blessings, reminding herself that things are not at bad as they seem.

4. Invite God into your thoughts- a Girl of Wisdom asks her Heavenly Father to direct her thoughts and to help her keep a positive perspective in the midst of challenging times.

Leave some comments for your fellow Girls of Wisdom, sharing other ways to create a positive perspective! 


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Kate
    Nov 04, 2010 @ 19:11:56

    It comes as little surprise to see the power behind your work. As coincidence has it, this year I have repeatedly found myself thanking the higher sources for your presence in my own work (which is to empower and equip young people to connect within themselves in self-respecting ways, and with the disadvantaged globally).

    Personally, I am Buddhist (a deeply imperfect one) yet I am aligned with your messages and goals. I meditate, and one of my most memorable experiences was at a silent retreat in Thailand, doing Yoga just before dawn, watching the beautiful Thai people picking vegetables in the fields, preparing to deliver our meals for the day. They served us always with nothing but grace and genorosity. Their lives were full and rich.

    Discussion about feelings particularly struck me as I scanned your blog. I want to bring two things about feelings together. The first comes from one of the advisors to my project. He said: ‘The most important feelings we ever have are the feelings we have about the feelings we have.’ The second comes from something I once read: it urged people to send love to ALL the feelings we experience. This appears to fly in the face of logic — and I love logic. How do we send love to feelings we are not ‘meant’ to have, such as feeling dispirited, dejected, or upset when we know in the scheme of world affairs, we have little to complain about. In other words, how do we send love to feelings we know we ‘should’ not have: feelings we have the intellect and wherewithal to overcome? I agree with your perspective to feel all the feelings we have. But for those without a Christian view, how do we take this one step further to strenthen resilience and a deep sense of wellbeing?

    Without making this a manuscript, let it suffice to say these two pearls of wisdom – feeling what I feel and sending all the feelings love – are amongst a treasure-chest of life lessons that help me to live a meaningful life. Sending love even to the feelings I prefer not to have, changes the frame through which to view them.

    In this time when our humanity is often usurped by quests to achieve that which has no significance to the truth of who we are as human beings, I find myself leaning upon these wisdoms more frequently.

    I am not a blogger, as a one-woman-band doubt I will become one, but thanks for this unusual indulgence to share private views and more imporantly, for the chance to see what is at the heart of who you are and your work and gifts for humanity.


    • Girls of Wisdom
      Nov 06, 2010 @ 10:58:18

      Thank you for the thought-provoking thoughts you have shared in response to one of our posts. You have made many different points and a simple reply would not be suffice to address them all. Indeed, countless books have been dedicated to explore the issues you have touched upon!

      Here is a brief response that we hope adds more layers to your journey of reflecting on emotions.

      Many people feel that there are emotions we “should” have and emotions we “should not” have. Some emotions make us feel good, so those would be emotions we feel we should have. Some emotions make us feel bad, so those would be emotions that we feel we should not have. However, we believe that emotions are not “good” or “bad.” Emotions are signals- they send us messages about deeper issues that are going on inside of us.

      For example, if a woman feels the emotion of jealousy, it does not make her bad. If she asks herself why she is feeling jealous, she may see that the emotion is sending her a message that she is not happy with how her own life is going. She then makes a choice about what to do in response. Her action, then, can be a good response (making new goals / seeking advice etc) or a bad response (putting down the friend that she was jealous of and ending the friendship).

      So your adviser is right- “The greatest feelings we have are the feelings we have about what we are feeling.” In other words- our feelings teach us about what is really going on inside of us and what we choose to do in response can have good or bad consequences.

      No matter what cultural or religious background you have, the following process can be applied-

      1. Allow yourself to feel your emotions.
      2. Ask yourself what message the emotion is sending you about the deeper issues going on inside of you.
      3. Choose how you are going to respond to that message.

      Kind regards,
      The Girls of Wisdom’s Blog.


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