Revenge is not the way.

Saturday 26th February 2011

How do you respond when someone hurts you? What do you do when you feel wronged or betrayed by someone who you love and trust?

I was sitting in a hair salon a few weeks ago and was flicking through some magazines. I was quite surprised by the amount of articles that featured stories on revenge- people “paying others back” for the pain they had caused. Yet even once the victims had taken revenge, they still seemed just as miserable and bitter as what they did before.

Proverbs 20:22 (NLT) says, “Don’t say, ‘I will get even for this wrong.’ Wait for the Lord to handle the matter.”

When somebody angers us, our immediate reaction can be to retaliate and “get even.” But God’s wisdom shows us that there is a better way. You see, revenge may make us feel good for a little while, but it doesn’t heal our hearts. We may feel instant satisfaction for a moment when we retaliate, but once that wears off, we still suffer because the issue hasn’t really been resolved.

So how can we “wait for the Lord to handle the matter”?

Tell God about your pain. Spend some time in prayer sharing your emotions with God. Honestly tell Him how you feel. Express the anger you feel towards the person who has wronged you. God can handle your pain!

Ask God to help you forgive. As hard as this may be, forgiveness is the only way that you can be set free from the wrongdoing of others. Make a decision to forgive and ask God to heal your heart.

Trust God to take control of the situation. Pray for the person who has hurt you and trust God to sort things out. But remember, God’s ways are often very different to how we think things should happen! Once you have done your part to forgive, it’s now the other person’s responsibility to their part to reconcile. You need to entrust that person into God’s care.

A Girl of Wisdom does not try to pay others back for hurting her. She understands that revenge is not the way.

Only forgiveness can heal a wounded heart.


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. amazingannie
    Feb 26, 2011 @ 16:58:44

    Thank you for sharing these thoughts about revenge and forgiveness.
    I shared this with my daughter who is going through a similar situation and I
    pray with her each day on the telephone.
    It is important to forgive each day each moment sometimes.

    Amazing Annie


    • Girls of Wisdom
      Apr 28, 2011 @ 16:37:08

      Hi Annie,

      Thank you for your comment. We are thrilled that our post was relevant to your daughter’s current situation. Thanks for supporting our blog!

      Kind regards,
      Celina and Claire


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