How to deal with angry people.

Sunday 20th March 2011

Encountering angry people is an inevitable part of life. We face them at school, at uni, in the workplace and amongst family and friendship circles. Although the emotion of anger in itself is not wrong, people can choose to express and deal with their anger in healthy or unhealthy ways. 

So how do you respond to people who express their anger in ways that are aggressive, hurtful, disrespectful and rude?

Proverbs 15:1 (NLT) says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” Furthermore, Proverbs 22:24 ( NLT) advises us to, “Keep away from angry, short-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul.”

Here are some practical ways that we can apply these verses-

1. A gentle response is better than a harsh reaction. When someone is being aggressive and hurtful, it can be so easy to react on impulse and be aggressive back. But that only makes things worse- this reaction adds fuel to the fire. It is amazing, however, that when you choose to remain calm and respond without raising your voice, it can change the atmosphere of the confrontation- this response throws water on the fire.

2. It is okay to walk away in order to protect yourself. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try to reconcile an issue peacefully, there will be people who cannot be reasonable and who will not change their disrespectful and rude behaviour. In this circumstance, it is okay to remove yourself from the situation. Tell that person that you are now choosing to end this confrontation because of their unreasonable behaviour and walk away or hang up the phone. Remaining in that atmosphere may be placing you in physical harm and can be damaging to your mind and heart.

A Girl of Wisdom not only understands how to manage her own anger; she also knows how to assertively, yet calmly, respond to people who are expressing anger towards her in an unhealthy way.


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