Hey! Did you just insult me?

Tuesday 17 January 2012

Have you ever felt like this? You’re in a conversation and suddenly someone says something that feels a bit like a knife going through you. I’m sure from time to time we have all experienced being on the receiving end of an insult. How do you best respond to that person in such a situation?

Responding to insults is somewhat dependent on a person’s personality and previous experiences. Some personality types are more inclined to react immediately with anger and show the full force of their annoyance. Others choose to say nothing, yet bottle up their emotions and are inwardly seething.

Proverbs 12:16 (MSG) says, “Fools have short fuses and explode all too quickly; the prudent quietly shrug off insults.”

There is no set formula on how to respond to an insult, however, the bible does give us keys on how to deal with these situations. Overall, it is a case by case basis and you can either say something or nothing at all. Here are 2 thoughts:

1. Learn to shrug off insults. This isn’t always easy to do! This response is more than not saying anything at all! You take a moment to think about what the person said and what is going on in their world at that time. Sometimes when a person insults you, it is out of their own hurts and frustrations. Ask yourself, “Is this person just having a bad hair day?” Forgive them for the harsh words spoken.

2. Respond carefully. Some insults and situations need a response. If this is the case, then take a moment to think to youself, “Is this the right time and place to respond? Or do I need to wait to gather my thoughts and respond at another time?” Either way, be honest in how you feel but without using insults in your response. Speak openly with the person, for example, “When you said……., I felt……” Forgive them for the hurts their words have caused.

A Girl of Wisdom learns how to respond to insults without resorting to using insults herself. She looks to see the bigger picture of what is going on in the situation and extends forgiveness.


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