Taking care of your relationships.

Monday 19th November 2012

I’ve come to the conclusion that most of my household appliances have a life expectancy of 10 years. Recently, I celebrated my 10-year wedding anniversary and within days of this wonderful occasion, appliances that were wedding gifts began to stop working!

Without maintenance, things on this earth begin to break down due to the wear and tear of life. It’s the same with relationships. Left on their own with no input, they too, begin to fall apart.

How can you take care of the relationships in your life? Especially when life can be so busy and before you know it, days, weeks, months and even years have flown by?

Proverbs 27:18a (ESV), “Whoever tends a fig tree will eat it’s fruit.”

Relationships require work, time and energy just as trees require sun, soil and water. What you put into a healthy relationship will be demonstrated by the fruit it is bearing. Here are a few thoughts on taking care of your relationships.

1. In any relationship, it is important to be growing yourself. What is your character like? Are you allowing God to grow who you are?

2. There are so many things to do in life but sometimes you need to let the little things go (like the dishes, watching tv….) in order to spend time with those you love.

3. Find out what the other person loves. Make little surprises based around this, be it a little note in the mail, a spontaneous coffee date or simply sitting down for a chat.

A Girl of Wisdom takes care of the relationships in her life. She endeavours to grow in Christ likeness and carefully tends to her relationships to see them grow and flourish.

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The Drip Effect… Three Tips on How to Avoid Nagging.

Thursday 28 October, 2010.

Drip… drip…drip… ever had a night where you couldn’t sleep because in the background you could hear a dripping tap? A drip is such a small thing- a tiny drop of water coming out of a tap and hitting the bottom of a sink- yet it can cause such irritation!

Proverbs 27:15-16 (MSG) says, “A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky tap; You can’t turn it off, and you can’t get away from it.”

The dictionary defines nagging as “continually finding fault or complaining in an irritating, wearisome, or relentless manner.” Unfortunately, this trait is often associated with women!!

There are many reasons why women nag- from tiredness to frustration to the need to control, to name a few. In general, nagging doesn’t work; it only creates more irritation within a situation. So…if you find yourself in this situation, stop and ask yourself, “Why am I nagging?”

Most importantly, commit to being a non-nagging-kind-of-girl! Here are a few tips on how to avoid nagging:

1. Think before you speak. Do you really need to ask the same request again? Instead, is there something encouraging you can say to the person instead of pointing out what they haven’t said or done (again!)? Think about how you can praise them for the things that they are doing.

2. Go with the flow. As women, we often have set deadlines and a way in which we like things done. This can be very useful, however, when it comes to repeatedly nagging, it’s good to let these preconceived timelines go. There is always tomorrow to fix the sink, mow the lawns, do the dishes or whatever may be a source of nagging in your home.

3. Give them a break. Whoever it is that you feel like nagging, stop and take a moment to think about what else may be going on in their world. Perhaps it’s a busy month at school or work or something is happening behind the scenes that you aren’t aware of. Give them some breathing space and see what unfolds.

A Girl of Wisdom chooses to use her words in a positive manner. She is aware that it’s not just what you say, but how you say it and that timing is a critical factor. If you catch yourself nagging this week, I encourage you to pause, take a deep breath and turn your words into praise.

How to refresh others with your words…

Tuesday 19th October 2010

Do you remember the saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me?” It may sound catchy, but it is so not true! I think that there are many girls who would have preferred broken bones over some of the horrible things that others have said to them. Bones can heal quite quickly… the memory of cruel words can take a lifetime to heal.

Proverbs 18:4 (NLT) says, “A person’s words can be life-giving water; words of true wisdom are as refreshing as a bubbling brook.” How can you apply this verse this week? Here’s two simple tips-

1. Think before you speak! It can be so easy to blurt out the first thoughts that come into your mind without thinking about how they may impact upon others. Get into the habit of being conscious about what you are wanting to say and how to say it in such a way that is “life-giving” rather than “soul-destroying.” A thoughtful word can refresh others and resolve conflict.

2. Practise encouraging others! It is amazing how easy it is to focus on the negatives of others rather than the positives. Choose to focus on the great qualities of your friends & family members and tell them what you love about them. An encouraging word can refresh others and brighten up their day.

Let’s be Girls of Wisdom who think before we speak and who love to encourage others. Our words can be as refreshing to someone as a glass of cool water on a hot summer’s day… what a beautiful thought!

Say a Little Prayer….Four Thoughts on Talking to God.

So what is prayer? Who is it to? And how do you pray? Here are a few thoughts on prayer –

1. Prayer is talking and listening to God. It is open communication and open dialogue with Him. You can share about your day, a struggle, something exciting or shed some tears. The conversation can be long, short or somewhere in between.

2. You can pray anywhere. The bible tells us that it is good to have times when we talk to God in a “secret place,” that is, somewhere private where it is just you and Him. It is also good to pray with others and for others. I often pray when in public too, though a passer-by wouldn’t know it by looking at me!

3. God hears you. God is omnipresent, meaning He is everywhere and is able to hear the prayers of millions of people at any one time, however, He still hears every one of your words and cares about your world.

4. God answers prayers. He may say yes, He may say no or He may say wait, but God always answers prayers. I’ve found in my life, God sometimes answers my prayers in ways and times that I do not expect, however, He always knows what is best for me.

I encourage you this week to talk to God. Share your day with Him, open up your heart and say a little prayer.

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