Words- every woman’s choice.

Wednesday 27 July 2011

When I was growing up as a child, I’d often hear adults quoting, “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but names will never hurt you.” This phrase was supposed to be a way to help children deal with the unkind words from their playmates. However, as I became an adult, I began to understand how far from the truth this phrase really is.

I actually believe that most people would have rather received a broken arm or leg than to have heard some of the vicious words that have been spoken to them or about them at some stage in their life. A broken arm or leg will heal quickly- a broken heart often doesn’t.

Proverbs 18:21 (The Message) says, “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit- you choose.” Wow! What a powerful way to describe the power of the words we speak everyday to everyone around us! And girls and women are especially good at talking!!

A Girl of Wisdom understands that her words are like poison or fruit to the soul. She knows that she can choose to speak words that build others up or speak words that tear others down. She also realises that words may leave her mouth, but they won’t leave her life- the words that she directs at others, may be words that are eventually directed back at her in the future.

Let’s be girls and women who are wise with our words- it’s always our choice.

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Will you stand the test of time?

Monday 18 July 2011

Where would you be without friends in your life? I know I would certainly be worse off if it weren’t for some pretty amazing women who believe in me and walk with me through all the ups and downs of life.

I love how Proverbs talks about friendships. Two of my favourite verses on this subject are, “Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family,” found in Proverbs 18:24 (MSG) and also “Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble,” Proverbs 17:17 (MSG).

What kind of friend are you? Do you encourage, support, build and strengthen the friendships around you?

What kind of friends do you have? Are they the kind of friends who do likewise?

A Girl of Wisdom is not a fair-weathered friend. She stands the test of time and no matter what her friends are going through, she is the kind of girl who is right there with them. She encourages, uplifts and builds the relationships in her life.

“I would love to spend time with you” -God.

Sunday 10 July 2011

I love spending time with my friends! Time with friends- shopping, cafes, great conversations, watching a dvd, going for a walk- leaves me feeling refreshed, positive and uplifted. 

As Christians, spending time with God should be as fun, enjoyable and rejuvinating as spending time with our friends. That’s right- God desires to have a friendship with us and to help us become more and more like the beautiful women He has created us to be.

Proverbs 2:2-4 & 6 (NLT) says, “Tune your ears to wisdom, and concentrate on understanding. Cry out for insight, and ask for understanding. Search for them as you would for silver, seek them like hidden treasures…For the Lord grants wisdom! From His mouth come knowledge and understanding.”

How can we apply these verses to our lives?

  • Spend time with God through reading His word. Although many view the bible as simply a historic text, it is so much more than that. It may not have been written in our lifetime, yet it is a rich resource of wisdom relevant to all aspects of our lives. Make a decision to read God’s wisdom and to ensure that you understand it.
  • Spend time with God through talking to Him. Just as we often sit down with a friend and ask them for their advice and opinions, we should have a great interest in finding out from God what He thinks. Make a decision to be honest with God about how you are feeling and to ask him to reveal to you His perspective of the situation.
  • Treasure spending time with God. People can easily pick up if you’re not really wanting to be around them and don’t value their company. Why would God be any different? He doesn’t want people spending time with Him because they “have to” or because it’s on the “To Do List for Good Christians.” Make a decision to approach your time with God with joy.

A Girl of Wisdom places significant value on her friendship with God. She makes it a priority to build this friendship through reading the bible and speaking to Him. Her heart fills with joy and gratitude knowing that God loves spending time with her.

“Keeping up with the Joneses”- why jealousy is a waste of time. By guest blogger, Natasha Nevison.

Wednesday 22nd June 2011
 
A little while ago, it seemed like everyone in my world was getting a whole lot of ‘stuff’ that they really wanted and longed for.  Beautiful cars, their dream homes, incredible holidays in exotic locations….even the exact pair of shoes they were looking for! 
 
At times I was feeling a little green with envy to the point that instead of rejoicing with my friends, it was eating me up inside.  I simply couldn’t afford to buy what they have and it was bugging me. Big time! 
 
When I looked in the dictionary to see what ‘envy’ really meant, these words came up…..spite, discontentment, uneasiness at other’s fortune, rivalry and hatred.  Yuk!  These really aren’t the characteristics that I want to aspire to have in my life.
 
Feeling the need for some perspective, I picked up the Bible to see what pearls of wisdom I could find.  Proverbs 14:30 says, “A relaxed attitude lengthens life; jealousy rots it away.”  Psalm 23:6 says, “Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life.”
 
Wow…simply letting go of the striving, the yearning and the chasing after what others have will bring joy and contentment with what we have. God promises that He will bring good things into our lives and take care of everything we need, until the end of our days.  Not only does He give us what we need, but the Bible mentions that He gives us things for our enjoyment!
 
The next time you feel jealousy start to rear its ugly head, just remember to be grateful and to rejoice with others in their good times. A Girl of Wisdom knows that she’ll soon see all of the many delights coming into her life!
 
Written by Natasha Nevison- qualified teacher, wife of media guru Paul, mother of two gorgeous girls, Intimo Lingerie Consultant, beautiful friend!

Revenge is not the way.

Saturday 26th February 2011

How do you respond when someone hurts you? What do you do when you feel wronged or betrayed by someone who you love and trust?

I was sitting in a hair salon a few weeks ago and was flicking through some magazines. I was quite surprised by the amount of articles that featured stories on revenge- people “paying others back” for the pain they had caused. Yet even once the victims had taken revenge, they still seemed just as miserable and bitter as what they did before.

Proverbs 20:22 (NLT) says, “Don’t say, ‘I will get even for this wrong.’ Wait for the Lord to handle the matter.”

When somebody angers us, our immediate reaction can be to retaliate and “get even.” But God’s wisdom shows us that there is a better way. You see, revenge may make us feel good for a little while, but it doesn’t heal our hearts. We may feel instant satisfaction for a moment when we retaliate, but once that wears off, we still suffer because the issue hasn’t really been resolved.

So how can we “wait for the Lord to handle the matter”?

Tell God about your pain. Spend some time in prayer sharing your emotions with God. Honestly tell Him how you feel. Express the anger you feel towards the person who has wronged you. God can handle your pain!

Ask God to help you forgive. As hard as this may be, forgiveness is the only way that you can be set free from the wrongdoing of others. Make a decision to forgive and ask God to heal your heart.

Trust God to take control of the situation. Pray for the person who has hurt you and trust God to sort things out. But remember, God’s ways are often very different to how we think things should happen! Once you have done your part to forgive, it’s now the other person’s responsibility to their part to reconcile. You need to entrust that person into God’s care.

A Girl of Wisdom does not try to pay others back for hurting her. She understands that revenge is not the way.

Only forgiveness can heal a wounded heart.

What you sow is what you reap.

Saturday 12th February 2011

I have friends that grow their own herbs, fruit and vegetables- so amazing! They buy the seeds, plant them at the right time, water them and wait for them to grow. How funny if you planted carrot seeds and ended up with tomatoes instead! Silly, right? You know that would not happen- the seeds you plant will be the plants that grow. In other words, what you sow is what you reap.

We understand this when it comes to nature, but many people may not understand this principle in their own lives. People can be cruel and unkind and then are shocked when people stop being their friend. People can be negative and criticise their friends and then wonder why they stop getting invited out. What you sow is what you reap.

Proverbs 11:25 (NLT) says, “The generous prosper and are satisfied; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed.”

How can you be generous in the week ahead? Maybe you could send someone a card for no other reason than to tell them how thankful you are that you have them as a friend. Maybe you could pay for your friend’s drink, lunch or movie ticket the next time you go out without expecting anything in return. Maybe you could give someone your time who is sick or going through a tough situation and find out what you can do to help them get through. The possibilities are endless!

A Girl of Wisdom is a generous girl. She understands that what goes around, comes around… What you sow is what you reap.

Out with the old, in with the new… right?

Friday 21 January 2011

Out with the old and in with the new… that’s the way things work right? We live in a society that looks for the latest and greatest and the newest must-have pieces of clothing or technology. Value is placed on youth rather than the wisdom that comes with age and life experience.

Proverbs 20:29 (MSG) says, “Youth may be admired for vigor, but gray hair gives prestige to old age.”

There is something really special about growing up. With age comes lessons learnt, knowledge gained and mistakes made and mended. There is great treasure within the heart of those who have walked on this planet for longer than what you and I have.

So how do you see the older generations (including your parents!)? How do you speak to them? Listen to them? A Girl of Wisdom respects and places honour on the generations above her. She understands that they have a wealth of experience that she can glean from and input into her life.

Let’s be Girls of Wisdom who have friendships with older women and cherish the older generations!

How to recognise true love.

Wednesday 12th January 2011

How many times have you said, ‘I love you’? How many times have those words been said to you?

I am certain that every day, those three special words can be heard around the world- in different countries, in different languages, between family members, husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends and between friends… not to mention in movies, songs and TV shows.

I find it interesting, however, that for the amount of times people say these words, the biggest source of emotional pain and heartache is ‘love gone wrong.’ Relationships break up, brothers and sisters fight, marriages end in divorce, friends let each other down… Indeed, it’s easy to say you love someone but much harder to prove it with your actions.

The bible teaches us about TRUE LOVE- the type of love that ‘never fails.‘ 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 gives us a checklist to help us recognise if we are truly loving someone or if someone is truly loving us…

‘Love is very patient and kind, never jealous and envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and easily forgives. It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices when truth wins out.’

How does this description of true love compare to how you love others and how others love you? Take some time to think about this description of true love and ask yourself what you need to do to improve the relationships in your life.

After all, people don’t recognise true love by simply hearing those three words- they recognise it by your actions.

Are you a loyal friend?

Saturday 23 October 2010

Loyalty: being faithful; standing by someone in the good and the bad; being reliable; never giving up when it gets hard; remaining true & constant; keeping one’s word.

How wonderful it is to have loyal friends! And it’s even more wonderful when your friends consider you to be loyal also! Proverbs 20:6 (NLT) says, “Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is really faithful?”

I think this is a verse that we can all relate to. Many friends appear to be loyal at the beginning, but it is through the test of time that a friend really proves their faithfulness. What about you? Do you think your friends would consider you to be a loyal person? Why or why not?

This weekend, take some time to think about your friendships. Which friendships are going well? Why? Which friendships need some attention? Why? These can be tough questions, but a Girl of Wisdom thinks about her friends and tries her best to do her part in building healthy friendships.

A loyal friend… are you one?

How to refresh others with your words…

Tuesday 19th October 2010

Do you remember the saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me?” It may sound catchy, but it is so not true! I think that there are many girls who would have preferred broken bones over some of the horrible things that others have said to them. Bones can heal quite quickly… the memory of cruel words can take a lifetime to heal.

Proverbs 18:4 (NLT) says, “A person’s words can be life-giving water; words of true wisdom are as refreshing as a bubbling brook.” How can you apply this verse this week? Here’s two simple tips-

1. Think before you speak! It can be so easy to blurt out the first thoughts that come into your mind without thinking about how they may impact upon others. Get into the habit of being conscious about what you are wanting to say and how to say it in such a way that is “life-giving” rather than “soul-destroying.” A thoughtful word can refresh others and resolve conflict.

2. Practise encouraging others! It is amazing how easy it is to focus on the negatives of others rather than the positives. Choose to focus on the great qualities of your friends & family members and tell them what you love about them. An encouraging word can refresh others and brighten up their day.

Let’s be Girls of Wisdom who think before we speak and who love to encourage others. Our words can be as refreshing to someone as a glass of cool water on a hot summer’s day… what a beautiful thought!

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