A Girl of Wisdom plans acts of kindness!

girl_giving_gift“If you plan to do evil, you will be lost; If you plan to do good, you will receive unfailing love and faithfulness.”

Proverbs 14:22 (NLT)

Believe it or not, you make plans everyday. You plan what time you have to get up in the morning so you have enough time to get ready. You plan how you are going to get somewhere (which bus or which parent’s car?). You plan how much time you think it will take to finish that project that is due on Friday so you can still watch your favourite TV show on Thursday night. You may even be in charge of planning several meals for you and your younger brothers and sisters during the week when your parents have to work late.

The list is endless. But I’d like to add one more “plan” to that list. Planning acts of kindness. It may sound a bit strange planning to be kind, but let’s face it- being kind naturally can be very hard when everything within us seems to automatically think about ourselves first. A Girl of Wisdom plans acts of kindness because she is outward focused and tries her best to put others before herself.

Stay tuned for our next blog post where we give you some practical ways to express kindness to those around you!

Dealing with the Green-Eyed Monster

green-eyed-monster-1Thursday 18 January 2013

There is a well-known metaphor, originally by William Shakeapeare, that describes jealousy as a “Green-Eyed Monster.” I think it’s a good description because the emotion of jealousy can certainly bring out the ugly in us! Over the past few days, I’ve been thinking about this powerful emotion… jealousy…. and the impact it has- especially on females!

And then, I stumbled upon this verse in today’s chapter (chpt 14) of Proverbs. Verse 30 says, A relaxed attitude lengthens life; jealousy rots it away. It suggests that when you allow jealousy to control you, it’s impossible to be relaxed and to enjoy life. Instead, jealousy breeds anger, hurt, frustration and bitterness that rots and destroys your soul.

So… why do girls and young women get jealous? Feelings of jealousy often rise up within us when we aren’t truly happy with who we are and find ourselves comparing ourselves to others. As a result, we start wanting to be like others because we don’t like who we are. This is dangerous because it can cause competition between friends and ultimately, the destruction of friendships. We can also get jealous when we see someone else getting something that we really want or feel that we deserved more. Therefore, we can’t be happy for our friend or celebrate with her… which also leads to an unhealthy friendship. Jealousy is just rotten!

However, I know that God made no mistakes when He made you. He lovingly created you and has also created a plan for YOUR life. Having faith in this fact is the first step to conquering jealousy. A Girl of Wisdom will still experience feelings of envy and comparison, but she is quick to take control of those thoughts before they turn into consuming jealousy. This type of girl reminds herself that she is unique- there is nobody like her… so why would she want to be someone else?

I pray you remember these thoughts the next time you are faced with the Green-Eyed Monster xox

Enter 2013 with confidence!

imagesThursday 3 January 2013

As we say farewell to 2012 and welcome in the brand new year of 2013, many of us would have spent some time reflecting on the year just gone and thinking about desires for the year ahead.

Some of you may have had a wonderful 2012 filled with happiness and success. For some of you, 2012 was the worst year of your life. And for others, 2012 was a mixed bag of ups and downs.

Proverbs 31:25b (ERV) says, “She looks to the future with confidence.” No matter what type of year you have just had, it is possible to look forward to the year ahead with confidence regardless of the past. Here are some important truths to remember as you enter this new year-

God loves you so much. He cares for you and does not hold your past against you. He will always forgive you when you ask Him to and will give you the strength and peace to forgive others.

God is always with you. He knows everything you are going through, the thoughts in your mind and the emotions of your heart. He will never leave you nor forsake you.

God uses everything for His purpose. Not everything that happens in life is good, but God has the miraculous power to use all things for good. He is always at work in your life even when you cannot feel it or see it.

A Girl of Wisdom can look to the future with confidence because she knows she is loved by a God who is always with her and has a purpose for her life. We pray that these truths encourage and strengthen you as you enter this new year. xoxox

What fruit are you bearing?

mangrove4Tuesday 19 December 2012

I love studying nature. There’s something about looking at God’s creation that stirs my heart to marvel at the magnificence of God. In fact, God often refers to His creation throughout scripture to explain things to us.

I was recently on holiday in Queensland and found myself fascinated with mangroves. These unique trees have part of their root system growing above the ground, giving a distinctive insight into the intricate way plants grow. One of the things I noticed is that mature trees have many parts burrowing their way into the ground. And it is these larger, older and well established trees that bear a lot of fruit. Unlike a little seedling, it is much harder to try and pullthese types of trees out to remove them from their soil.

Proverbs 12:12b (NLT) says, “The godly are well rooted and bear their own fruit.”

The bible often uses the analogy of trees for our own lives. Along that train of thought, you can ask yourself questions like, “What kind of “soil” am I planted in? How am I growing? And what kind of fruit am I bearing?”

This week I encourage you to take some time to pray and reflect on who you are as a person, your character, speech and actions. Does anything need aligning to God’s word and the example that Jesus gave us of His life on earth?

A Girl of Wisdom is well rooted in the Word of God. She continues to grow in the ways of God and bears Christ-like fruit such as love, patience, goodness, kindness, self-control, joy, peace, faithfulness and gentleness.

Wisdom for your future.

imagesFriday 7th December 2012

My little girl is almost 15 months old and has quickly changed from being a baby to being a toddler. She is at the stage where she is loving to learn about everyone and everything around her. She eagerly watches as I show her how to do things and she copies so much of what I do. She listens as I explain simple things to her and she willingly tries to do what I ask of her.

I think that as we grow up, our eagerness and willingness to learn and accept advice from others can fade away. We very much live in a society that suggests that we are weak if we need help from others.

However, Proverbs 19:20 (ESV) says, “Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.”

What decisions or choices in life are you currently facing? What situations are currently happening in your life in which you know that you need help? Don’t be afraid to ask for advice and guidance from people you trust and who have the knowledge and experience that you need.

A Girl of Wisdom is wise because she doesn’t isolate herself from others. She knows that one of the keys to having a successful life is being willing to learn from those around her. Accepting help today means gaining wisdom for tomorrow.

Taking care of your relationships.

Monday 19th November 2012

I’ve come to the conclusion that most of my household appliances have a life expectancy of 10 years. Recently, I celebrated my 10-year wedding anniversary and within days of this wonderful occasion, appliances that were wedding gifts began to stop working!

Without maintenance, things on this earth begin to break down due to the wear and tear of life. It’s the same with relationships. Left on their own with no input, they too, begin to fall apart.

How can you take care of the relationships in your life? Especially when life can be so busy and before you know it, days, weeks, months and even years have flown by?

Proverbs 27:18a (ESV), “Whoever tends a fig tree will eat it’s fruit.”

Relationships require work, time and energy just as trees require sun, soil and water. What you put into a healthy relationship will be demonstrated by the fruit it is bearing. Here are a few thoughts on taking care of your relationships.

1. In any relationship, it is important to be growing yourself. What is your character like? Are you allowing God to grow who you are?

2. There are so many things to do in life but sometimes you need to let the little things go (like the dishes, watching tv….) in order to spend time with those you love.

3. Find out what the other person loves. Make little surprises based around this, be it a little note in the mail, a spontaneous coffee date or simply sitting down for a chat.

A Girl of Wisdom takes care of the relationships in her life. She endeavours to grow in Christ likeness and carefully tends to her relationships to see them grow and flourish.

What does jewellery & your character have in common?

Tuesday 25th September 2012

For my 30th birthday last year, my husband bought me a black Daisy Georg Jensen necklace. I absolutely love it and wear it all the time!

My closest girlfriends are used to seeing me with it on and when I forget to wear it, my husband always asks where it is. Also, I have had strangers stop me and ask me what type of necklace it is and where you get them from.

People notice what you wear… And in the same way, everyone eventually notices your character.

Proverbs 3:3 (NCV) says, “Don’t ever forget kindness and truth. Wear them like a necklace…” 

Just like a pretty necklace, a kind and honest woman is attractive and memorable. When you choose to speak and act generously and truthfully, with integrity and compassion, you will be amazed by the positive impact this makes on those around you.

A Girl of Wisdom not only thinks about her outer appearance, but realises that who she is on the inside is what counts the most. Just like jewellery, her character shines and draws people to her. I don’t know about you, but I want to be this sort of woman! xox

Living a life beyond yourself.

Wednesday 15 August 2012

I have some amazing friends travelling and volunteering in Africa at the moment whilst others are preparing for similar ventures in Asia later in the year. This isn’t the type of tourist holiday where you sit on a beach (although they are good too). Rather, it is a person giving their time and skills to invest in those in poverty.

In Proverbs 31:20 (NCV) a wise woman is described as a person who “welcomes the poor and helps the needy.” I love this verse and it excites me to see it in action in my own life and those around me.

There are many forms of “poor and needy” in this world. There are those who have little in the way of food, shelter and water, while others may be suffering from illness or isolation. It’s not just in Africa and Asia, but in our own communities too. We can all do something to help others, the questions is, what are you doing?

1. Think and pray about what you can do. Think about the skills that you already have- you’ll be amazed at what you are already capable of!

2. What stirs your heart? Homelessness, human trafficking, adult illiteracy…. there are so many!

3. Find volunteering organisations that are known for what they do and have proven that they are trustworthy and effective in helping those in need.

4. Think locally and globally. There are things you can do on a regular basis to help those in need in your community as well as overseas volunteering opportunitiees.

A Girl of Wisdom lives outside of her own needs and desires. She is selfless in her motivation and genuinely wants to see poverty abolished. When she sees the needs that exists in the world, she is moved with compassion to reach out her hand to help.

The hallmarks of a true friend.

Tuesday 24th July 2012

Lately, I’ve been thinking about the many types of friends in life, from acquantainces to best friends. Reflecting back over the last decade or two, I’ve seen my friendship circles change. In part this is due to changes in seasons like finishing school and starting university or even moving interstate. Yet some friends, regardless of the happenings of life, have stayed true.

There are many verses in Proverbs about friendship and here are two of my favourites: Proverbs 17:9 (NLT), “Love prospers when a fault is forgiven,     but dwelling on it separates close friends,” and Proverbs 17:7 (NLT), “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.”

What is it about friendships that helps them grow and continue for many years? Here are a few thoughts on the hallmarks of a true friend.

1. Loyalty. A true friend sticks by you no matter what is going on in the world around you.

2. Speaks the truth. This kind of friend doesn’t gossip about you behind your back. They care about you and if they have a concern, they come honestly and directly talk to you about it themselves.

3. Makes time. In this busy world, a true friend finds time to be with you and continues building the friendship through their words and actions.

4. Forgives. Both people in a friendship are bound to make a mistake and hurt the other. Asking for forgiveness and being forgiven are vital to building healthy friendships.

5. Laughs and cries. Life is full of ups and downs and a good friend can laugh with you during the good times and can sit and cry with you when things are not going well.

There are many more traits of a good friend and this week I encourage you to reflect on two things. Firstly, reflect on the friends in your life. Do they exhibit the hallmarks of a true friend? Secondly, how about you? What are you like as a friend?

A Girl of Wisdom is first and foremost a true friend. She is also able to recognise the true friends in her life and continually works at building life long friendships.

Show me the money!

Wednesday 6 June 2012

Money. We all have it in one form or another. Some earn more, some less and this is dependent on many factors such as age, type of job and hours worked per week. What is applicable to all is how you use your money.

The woman described in Proverbs 31 knows how to manage her finances. In verses 16 and 17 (NLT) it says:

“She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.”

No matter how great or small your finances are, our question to you today is, “How do you handle your finances?” Here are some thoughts for you.

1. Trust God with your finances. Money isn’t everything. Yes, in our society there are bills to be paid, food to be bought as well as many other expenses. First and foremost, trust God with what you have. Talk to Him about any concerns with your bank balance and ask Him to provide for your needs.

2. Make (and stick to!) a budget. There are many ways to do this, from excel spreadsheets to computer apps. Find a budget tool that works for you. It’s a great way to look at how much you earn and where your money goes!

3. Give some money away. Don’t keep it all to yourself. Find a reputable charity or perhaps something in your church, where you can give to those in need.

4. Invest wisely. Regarldess of your age or the amount of money you have to invest, seek some professional advice about where to invest some money for the future.

A Girl of Wisdom knows how to manage her finances. She trusts in God, is aware of her expenditures, seeks advice on investments and loves to give some of her earnings away to those less fortunate than herself.

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