A Girl of Wisdom speaks up for injustice (continued!)

compassionI believe with all my heart that a Girl of Wisdom is not self-centred and unaware of how others are being treated. Girls who are wise see beyond themselves and actively pay attention to what is happening to others around them. And when they see something happening that is unfair and not right, they confidently and calmly make a stand for truth and justice.

I encourage you to pick a day this coming week. Spend one whole day practising the skill of “seeing people.” Look at the faces of others who pass you by. Do they look happy or sad? Are they alone? What type of day do you think they are having?

Listen to the conversations around you. What is being said? Do you think it’s right, wrong, unkind, true, false, friendly or mean? You will be amazed at the things you see and hear that you have never seen or heard before. You will be surprised at the amount of things that go on around you that are unfair.

Once you begin to notice the people and conversations around you, the next step is to stand up for the injustice that you see. As a high school student, it may be as simple as smiling at a girl who you know doesn’t have any friends. Maybe you could even sit next to her. For those of us who are mums and professionals in the workplace- how about telling other women that you don’t want to be a part of listening to rumours when they begin to gossip?

So beautiful girl, are you ready to accept this little pearl of wisdom? It’s a hard choice to be compassionate because it takes courage. Because when you feel compassion, you must act. And sometimes, it may mean taking a risk and turning away from the crowd. I know you are brave enough to live this way!

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The power of the tongue- insights from guest blogger Gilly Williamson

Tuesday 11th September 2012
Recently, I have been thinking about criticism. We can all fall into that trap of speaking negatively about others so easily. I was on holidays, hearing some harsh words spoken about someone I love.
Proverbs 15:1 says,  “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”
Sometimes it is easy to end up criticising someone when we agree with a wrong choice they have made- the choice of university, a business venture, the friends they hang out with- the list goes on. Whilst I said very little, I felt convicted because I didn’t speak up for the person being criticised, especially in their absence.
Proverbs 16:24 says, “Pleasant words are like honey from a honeycomb- sweet to the spirit and healthy for the body.” 
After I returned home, I decided to ring each person who I’d been with, after praying and asking God for some wise words to speak. I said, “This person has made their choice. I am choosing to support them in this choice they have made because I love them, so can we support this person together?”  Almost immediately, I could feel the atmosphere change and attitudes change too.
I then rang the person who had been criticised, expressing support to them in the choice they had made. I told them I loved them and again, I sensed the atmosphere change.
The journey is ongoing regarding guarding our hearts and lips. Perhaps in reading this, you are being reminded of words you have spoken or not spoken or times where you have criticised or where you yourself have been criticised. Do not feel condemned by it but bring it to the Lord and pray, asking him to help you forgive yourself and others. Ask Him to speak His words through you. His words always spring from a heart of love, and love never fails.
A Girl of Wisdom will speak from a heart of love, bringing a soft answer and pleasant words. You can make an amazing difference by the life-giving words you speak, SO GO FOR IT!!
Gillian Williamson is from Northern Ireland and has a background in hairdressing, missionary work, teaching and life coaching. She has a passion for other cultures particularly Scandinavia. Gillian desires to see people live out their God-given potential and find wholeness in every area of their lives.

The hallmarks of a true friend.

Tuesday 24th July 2012

Lately, I’ve been thinking about the many types of friends in life, from acquantainces to best friends. Reflecting back over the last decade or two, I’ve seen my friendship circles change. In part this is due to changes in seasons like finishing school and starting university or even moving interstate. Yet some friends, regardless of the happenings of life, have stayed true.

There are many verses in Proverbs about friendship and here are two of my favourites: Proverbs 17:9 (NLT), “Love prospers when a fault is forgiven,     but dwelling on it separates close friends,” and Proverbs 17:7 (NLT), “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.”

What is it about friendships that helps them grow and continue for many years? Here are a few thoughts on the hallmarks of a true friend.

1. Loyalty. A true friend sticks by you no matter what is going on in the world around you.

2. Speaks the truth. This kind of friend doesn’t gossip about you behind your back. They care about you and if they have a concern, they come honestly and directly talk to you about it themselves.

3. Makes time. In this busy world, a true friend finds time to be with you and continues building the friendship through their words and actions.

4. Forgives. Both people in a friendship are bound to make a mistake and hurt the other. Asking for forgiveness and being forgiven are vital to building healthy friendships.

5. Laughs and cries. Life is full of ups and downs and a good friend can laugh with you during the good times and can sit and cry with you when things are not going well.

There are many more traits of a good friend and this week I encourage you to reflect on two things. Firstly, reflect on the friends in your life. Do they exhibit the hallmarks of a true friend? Secondly, how about you? What are you like as a friend?

A Girl of Wisdom is first and foremost a true friend. She is also able to recognise the true friends in her life and continually works at building life long friendships.

Can you keep a secret?

Monday 12 March 2012

Have you ever told someone something private about yourself only to find out later that they did not keep it to themselves? Or vice versa? There are times in life when we like to share things about ourselves with others, perhaps to gain their perspective or help, and it’s nice to know that the person we talk to is able to keep a confidence.

Proverbs 11:13 (NLT) says, “A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.”

It’s an awful feeling when you find out that someone has gone and ‘told the world’ about something you shared privately with them. You may feel betrayed, embarrassed, angry or hurt.

So what about you? Can you keep a secret? What do you do when someone shares something with you? Keeping something between yourself and another person shows that you care about them and that you are a trustworthy friend. It builds trust in your relationship and enables you both to share openly and freely, knowing that what you say is kept safe.

However, there are a few exceptions to keeping secrets. A friend may reveal that they are in real danger or experiencing abuse. In these situations, think carefully about how you respond to your friend when they ask, “You won’t tell anyone, will you?” Out of concern for them, you may need to tell another appropriate person who can help.

A Girl of Wisdom is a trustworthy friend who does not spread idle gossip. She is the kind of girl who can be relied upon to keep the things shared with her close to her heart.

Gossip- tastes good then makes you sick!

Sunday 28th August 2011

Chocolate, ice-cream, fried food, lollies, soft drinks, chips… ever had a craving for junk food yet regretted it afterwards? I certainly have! There have been many times when I have desired food that deep down, I knew wasn’t good for me, but I went ahead and indulged in it anyway… only to feel sick for hours after eating it.

Gossip is like that. In fact, Proverbs 18:8 (MSG) says, “Listening to gossip is like eating cheap candy; do you really want junk like that in your belly?”

Conversations are like food to our mind, emotions and spirit. Just as we need to be careful about the types of food we eat when thinking about our physical health, we also need to think about the types of conversations we engage in when thinking about our mental, emotional and spiritual health.

When we choose to listen to gossip about others, it may seem juicy, fun, interesting and entertaining at the time, but it quickly leaves a sick feeling in our hearts afterwards.

When a conversation of gossip begins, a Girl of Wisdom chooses to try and change the subject or walks away if the other people in the conversation won’t stop. Most importantly, if she knows the person that is being gossiped about and believes that what is being said is untrue, she has the courage to stand up for that person. 

A Girl of Wisdom understands that gossip is unhealthy food for her mind and spirit. Let’s be wise about what conversations we participate in!

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