Dealing with the Green-Eyed Monster

green-eyed-monster-1Thursday 18 January 2013

There is a well-known metaphor, originally by William Shakeapeare, that describes jealousy as a “Green-Eyed Monster.” I think it’s a good description because the emotion of jealousy can certainly bring out the ugly in us! Over the past few days, I’ve been thinking about this powerful emotion… jealousy…. and the impact it has- especially on females!

And then, I stumbled upon this verse in today’s chapter (chpt 14) of Proverbs. Verse 30 says, A relaxed attitude lengthens life; jealousy rots it away. It suggests that when you allow jealousy to control you, it’s impossible to be relaxed and to enjoy life. Instead, jealousy breeds anger, hurt, frustration and bitterness that rots and destroys your soul.

So… why do girls and young women get jealous? Feelings of jealousy often rise up within us when we aren’t truly happy with who we are and find ourselves comparing ourselves to others. As a result, we start wanting to be like others because we don’t like who we are. This is dangerous because it can cause competition between friends and ultimately, the destruction of friendships. We can also get jealous when we see someone else getting something that we really want or feel that we deserved more. Therefore, we can’t be happy for our friend or celebrate with her… which also leads to an unhealthy friendship. Jealousy is just rotten!

However, I know that God made no mistakes when He made you. He lovingly created you and has also created a plan for YOUR life. Having faith in this fact is the first step to conquering jealousy. A Girl of Wisdom will still experience feelings of envy and comparison, but she is quick to take control of those thoughts before they turn into consuming jealousy. This type of girl reminds herself that she is unique- there is nobody like her… so why would she want to be someone else?

I pray you remember these thoughts the next time you are faced with the Green-Eyed Monster xox


Time for a soul stock take.

Tuesday 26th June 2012

As we approach the end of yet another financial year, many of us, as individuals and as part of businesses and organisations, will be busy taking stock of our finances over the past twelve months.

But how often do we take the time to take stock of our own souls? Our thoughts, emotions, memories, dreams, regrets?

Proverbs3:13-14 (ESV) says, “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold.”

These verses tell us that attaining wisdom and understanding is more beneficial than attaining material wealth. And one way to grow in wisdom and understanding is to take the time to reflect on your life. Here’s some questions to get you started on taking stock of your soul-

  • What areas of my life are going well?
  • What areas of my life are not going well? Is there anything I can do to improve this?
  • Do I feel happy about who I am and where my life is going?
  • Are there any unresolved issues or conflicts with others that need to be addressed? Do I need to make the first step? What will that step be?

A Girl of Wisdom takes care of the condition of her soul just as much as she takes care of the state of her finances. She takes time out to pause, think and reflect on the person she is and how her life is going. How about you?

Medicine for the soul.

Thursday 24th May 2012

A lot of emphasis is placed on taking care of our bodies. Exercise, a balanced diet and enough sleep all help in creating and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

However, in a society that often focuses purely on our physical health and appearance, we can sometimes forget about the health of our minds and emotions and the impact this can have on us physically.

Proverbs 17:22 (ESV) says, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”

So how do we have a joyful heart? I believe a joyful heart is the result of a thankful heart- giving thanks in all things… Finding the beauty in every moment- in the mundane, the seemingly insignificant daily grind and the magnificent.

As we consciously remind ourselves of how much we have to be thankful for, gratefulness and thanksgiving provide a fresh pespective on our circumstances and how we feel. A heavy heart turns into a joyful heart, which fills us with strength, courage and peace.

A Girl of Wisdom understands the supernatural power of giving thanks. Indeed, it is medicine for the soul.

Sweet Soul, Healthy Body!

Sunday 19th December

Today’s wisdom comes from Proverbs 16:24 (NLT) which says, “Kind words are like honey- sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”

I love this thought! There have been many times throughout my life where family and friends have spoken kind and encouraging words to me. It is such a lovely feeling! You feel the inside of you turn all fuzzy and warm and your face lights up in a smile. Kind words have the power to brighten up a person’s day.

But it is also important to remember that it is not just the receiver of the kind words who benefits. A Girl of Wisdom chooses to be the giver of kind words, knowing that her own life will be refreshed as she lovingly focuses on others.

So, are you up for today’s challenge? Make a choice today to intentionally say something kind to someone. Remember, kind words sweeten the soul and bring health to the body!

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